Wednesday, February 08, 2006
What is going on
Hey,
As I ride behind the wheel of my car things seem to become clear about what is going on around me and what I think I should do about them. I don't know why, but the sanctuary of my driver's seat with no one in the passenger side is the place that becomes my way of calming my spirit and actually becoming me. Whoever that is.
Tonight's look into myself seemed to reveal the differences between people. To me, there are two types of people in this world. Those who talk and those that listen. I know it's not really that easy, but man it sure seems like it.
I have friends that can't wait to get things out of their mouth. Just can't hold it in to save their life. They may abruptly end a theme of a conversation just so they can get their tidbit of information in the open. Like somehow if they hold in their information it may poison their insides and kill them.
And then there are listeners. Calmed souls with no real need to express their opinions and take in everything like a sweet drink of wine after a hard day. It's not that they're antisocial, but that maybe their kindred spirits have said all that really needs to be said. Or they believe that words serve as things to hold us back from our true meanings in conversation. Maybe a look is worth more than any word could ever say. Or maybe they are listeners because no one lets them say what important to them. Who knows? because I sure don't
As for me, I'm a listener, maybe I like to solve problems, maybe I like to hear what others' are doing, maybe I just like being the fly on the wall. Whatever the case, I was born a listener, and a listener I shall be to my dying day.
As I ride behind the wheel of my car things seem to become clear about what is going on around me and what I think I should do about them. I don't know why, but the sanctuary of my driver's seat with no one in the passenger side is the place that becomes my way of calming my spirit and actually becoming me. Whoever that is.
Tonight's look into myself seemed to reveal the differences between people. To me, there are two types of people in this world. Those who talk and those that listen. I know it's not really that easy, but man it sure seems like it.
I have friends that can't wait to get things out of their mouth. Just can't hold it in to save their life. They may abruptly end a theme of a conversation just so they can get their tidbit of information in the open. Like somehow if they hold in their information it may poison their insides and kill them.
And then there are listeners. Calmed souls with no real need to express their opinions and take in everything like a sweet drink of wine after a hard day. It's not that they're antisocial, but that maybe their kindred spirits have said all that really needs to be said. Or they believe that words serve as things to hold us back from our true meanings in conversation. Maybe a look is worth more than any word could ever say. Or maybe they are listeners because no one lets them say what important to them. Who knows? because I sure don't
As for me, I'm a listener, maybe I like to solve problems, maybe I like to hear what others' are doing, maybe I just like being the fly on the wall. Whatever the case, I was born a listener, and a listener I shall be to my dying day.
# posted by J L @ 9:22 PM 
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There can be a lot of wisdom in silence. That is, if the silence is thoughtful, not empty. As a few others have said:
The older I grow the more I listen to people who don't talk much. ~Germain G. Glien
Talking is like playing on the harp; there is as much in laying the hands on the strings to stop their vibration as in twanging them to bring out their music. ~Oliver Wendell Holmes
People have to talk about something just to keep their voice boxes in working order so they'll have good voice boxes in case there's ever anything really meaningful to say. ~Kurt Vonnegut, Jr., Cat's Cradle
Don't speak unless you can improve on the silence. ~Spanish Proverb
(all from quotegarden.com)
The older I grow the more I listen to people who don't talk much. ~Germain G. Glien
Talking is like playing on the harp; there is as much in laying the hands on the strings to stop their vibration as in twanging them to bring out their music. ~Oliver Wendell Holmes
People have to talk about something just to keep their voice boxes in working order so they'll have good voice boxes in case there's ever anything really meaningful to say. ~Kurt Vonnegut, Jr., Cat's Cradle
Don't speak unless you can improve on the silence. ~Spanish Proverb
(all from quotegarden.com)
Perhaps these two groups you suggested have much more in common than one would think. I'm going to suggest that those who talk perhaps fill the air with these tidbits of information because they are afraid. They fear that if they say what is really on their mind, or in their heart that they will face judgment of others. Maybe that is why they feel it necessary to regurgitate these facts or maybe it is because they don't like themselves. An individual may try to sound smart because they feel like the company they are in is somehow more superior.
On a similar note, perhaps these same reasons are why some are listeners. They are afraid to show people who they really are deep down. They are afraid to let people know their thoughts. They are afraid to let people in, afraid of not being accepted for who they really are.
Perhaps this is another way to view these categories of people.
Possibly the reason you feel most like yourself alone in your car is because this is the one place where you feel you are free to express yourself without having to worry about judgment.
And perhaps others feel most like themselves when they are with those people that make them feel secure with who they are. (and maybe it only takes one person to make them feel that way...)
Just a few thoughts...
On a similar note, perhaps these same reasons are why some are listeners. They are afraid to show people who they really are deep down. They are afraid to let people know their thoughts. They are afraid to let people in, afraid of not being accepted for who they really are.
Perhaps this is another way to view these categories of people.
Possibly the reason you feel most like yourself alone in your car is because this is the one place where you feel you are free to express yourself without having to worry about judgment.
And perhaps others feel most like themselves when they are with those people that make them feel secure with who they are. (and maybe it only takes one person to make them feel that way...)
Just a few thoughts...
I postulate that there are two types of talkers in this world. Those who talk because they're completely in the moment, and those who talk because they're uncomfortable and trying to escape the moment. The ones who talk because they're in the moment are my favorite people to be around. The ones who talk to escape the moment are fun for a while, then they start to creep you the hell out. You come over to their house to hang out and you can tell by looking at them that they're completely disturbed about something, but all they want to talk about is inane trivial shit. Actually in-the-moment talkers, though often less creepy, sometimes annoy you after a while too. Everyone's got problems.
I, also a listener, love driving in my car as well. I've driven circles around this town for hours at a time before, listening to the radio. The car's been in the shop with a corroded starter system for about the last week, so I've been stranded for a while. Lately I've been suffering from a mild physical depression. Push-ups help.
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I, also a listener, love driving in my car as well. I've driven circles around this town for hours at a time before, listening to the radio. The car's been in the shop with a corroded starter system for about the last week, so I've been stranded for a while. Lately I've been suffering from a mild physical depression. Push-ups help.
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